My 10 Most Popular Posts (so far)

real popularity SOMHi friends,

I’ve written over 100 posts in the past 3.5 years. So I thought it’d be a good time today to look back on what I’ve written. I’m going to list from the oldest to the latest, what my most popular posts have been.

Next week, I’ll show you my least popular posts.

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I can’t tell you why these were more popular than others, because, for example, This Is My Time felt like a personal triumph, but no one barely looked at it.

  1. Woo fucking woo–my first post!
  2. Just Enough Light–my second post!
  3. A trip to woo-woo land–that one time I went to see an angel card reader
  4. I need your help/How can I help you?–This was a month after my contract had ended. I’m pretty sure this still applies almost 2 years later as a freelancer. AND this is my most popular post!
  5. how to be your own motherΒ — Mommy issues!
  6. the astrology of my family — I’ll be updating this today because I got something about my father wrong (appropriate for Father’s Day?)
  7. it’s time to move on, it’s time to get going — a tribute to the late, great Tom Petty
  8. the greatest wound, the greatest healing — existential loneliness sucks.
  9. hell is living with other people — my almost complete history of terrible roommates
  10. Digging Up Old Roots: An Elegy — buh bye, Christianity

If you’ve been with me from the very first post, thanks for being on my writing journey with me. Especially if you’ve been a long-time patron of mine, your material support has meant the world to me.

Wherever you picked up to come along for the ride, I appreciate you. I hope you have a great week and a beautiful Summer Solstice.

Share in the comments what your favorite post is from the sun opposite moon blog!

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Sorry, I was NaNo-ing and working…

Dear sun opposite moon reader, πŸ€—

I had intended for this place to be treated professionally, to write every week, as a commitment to my creative writing practice. But I got called away to other things, paid things. πŸ€·πŸΎβ€β™€οΈ

After the latest post, the greatest wound, the greatest healing, the following day, I was slammed with work for three weeks. πŸ€¦πŸΎβ€β™€οΈ

But I was grateful because it was a scary time. I had a huge lull in work in October. πŸ™πŸΎ

This is also National Novel Writing Month (#NaNoWriMo is the hashtag on Twitter). βœπŸΎπŸ‘©πŸΎβ€πŸ’» #️⃣

I finished my novel in 9 days total (50,182). 😲 πŸŽ‰

I did NaNo last year and something similar happened. I couldn’t start until the last week. I finished the first half of my novel in 8 days. 😱

Last year, I was a lot more sleep deprived. This year, tired but not deliriously tired like I was this time last year. 😴🀀πŸ˜ͺ

So, TL;DR, bills had to be paid, a contest had to be won. πŸ™ƒ

The things I have wanted to write take up a lot of room in my heart, which means it takes time to untangle all the words and the meaning into a blog post. πŸ’—

I have work waiting for me tomorrow, which is a very good thing. But I have to think about my commitment to sunoppositemoon-motion–as in, it needs to be a priority. πŸ”

But it can’t just be a diary. It needs to be art, or at least artful. That takes time, to write about your life creatively. πŸ€”

I definitely have stories. I just have to figure out how to balance the paying of bills with the art of my life–like most people. βš–οΈ

So, as much as I can, I’ll try to double up here to make up the time I lost. ⏱

But tonight, I’m going to give my hands and my brain a needed rest.. 🀯

Before I go, though–this month was so transformative. I worked out things in my life through my novel. πŸ’ͺ🏾

Peace lays heavy on me now, which is a wonderful way to go into the last days of being 39. πŸ•Š

Thanks for your patience and hopefully I can get back to writing here this weekend. πŸ€“

Deborah 😘

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what I don’t want to say

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This is may be a meta blog post, or like a blog post about blog posts. Ars blog post?

There’s so much IΒ don’t want to share right now, and maybe that’s also why I haven’t wanted to write here. I just go deep all the time, and finally, I’m tired. I just want to sit on the beach of life right now.

Or, I could be tweeting too much. I’ve gone on a lot of rights lately. But still, there’s something about coming here and spilling my guts that I feel like I don’t have to do as much anymore.

I still want to share my spiritual journey, though. Finding the right sweet spot for disclosure and privacy can be tough for a memoirist.

There’s one blog post just waiting to be written, and it’s about my mother. I got major clarity about our relationship last week, like decades worth in one sitting. But the truth was devastating–even though it was something I already knew. Maybe I will write this after this post.

Last week, I basically dragged my broken heart through my writing schedule and made it somehow. It was terrible, physically unbearable; but by Friday, the pain broke and I was fine again. But then again, I’m not fine.

I’ve had to take a real pause and a hard look at all of my relationships and see how my relationship, or lack thereof, with my mother has filtered through everything. It’s been enlightening but also slightly horrifying. Slightly only because deep down, I knew all this.

My tightening up here is probably a sign of improving health. Maybe I had to parade my pain and guts and essence to be seen, heard, accepted–isn’t that what babies do, pretty much? Look at me, I’m in pain. I need a hug. I need a bottle. I need to be burped. I need my diaper change. There’s a lot that I want to share, but it’s is just for me–or at least for close friends.

And that’s what having proper boundaries should feel like, like that I do have something special in me, about me, that I don’t have to share with anyone; that I don’t have to be a certain way for acceptance; that I don’t need external validation for my thoughts or experiences.

Right now, there’s so much I would like to share here, but as I started to learn in college, if you don’t have healthy boundaries, people will trample all over you and think that you welcomed them in to do it.

Even though in the previous post, it was a bit of a lament and slow acceptance to my situation, I’m slowly, ever so slowly, seeing its purpose. I keep trying to remind myself, or convince myself, there’s no way I would have been able to get the messages about my mother if everything was going well.

I try to imagine myself, busy in a relationship, busy with friends, busy going out, busy busy busy, and trying to schedule time to meditate or seek spiritual guidance of some sort.

Do people really do that when they are happy? If you’re in the light, do you seek even more light?

Still, when all that busyness returns, and it will, the gratitude I will feel…I will look like a cloying, obsequious fool–and I won’t care. I won’t be the crying baby, forever longing to be held and soothed. I won’t have anything to prove about my own worth.

I won’t have to spill my guts so much to show that I’m a human being.

At the bottom of these 10 of Swords which impale me through and through, I can see a newer dawn start to creep above the horizon…

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Patreon! It’s on!

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I usually wouldn’t be launching something a full moon, but necessity is the mother of invention. At least it’s a full moon in Taurus. Taurus is ruled by Venus–love! beauty! money! And it being an earth sign, we’re talking about stability. And I could definitely need some of that right now.

So I’m up on Patreon now. If you want to support this blog, I will have a good blog post once a week, at least. And here’s the link:

https://www.patreon.com/sunoppositemoon

If you want to donate some other way:

https://cash.me/$beelicious or

https://paypal.me/deb888

Thanks for reading and sharing!

If you liked what you’ve read, I’d love your support as a patron on Patreon. Tiers starts at just $1/month.Β 

If you want to give a one-time gift or monthly gift, hit me up on Paypal.

Thanks for your support! πŸ’˜